Approach:

Jordan Peterson:

-> "what emotion do you feel when you're going to approach someone you're very attracted to and there's an extremely high probability that she's going to tell you to disappear"

-> "right exactly absolutely because it's a real judgment"

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Anger:

How must someone generally act if you're going to be angry at them they have to be irritating, they have to provoke you in some way. Well the mere fact that you perceive what they're doing is irritating or provoking doesn't ensure that anyone else would have thought about it as irritating or provoking.