Trust Problems:

Eric Barker:

"So we have a trust problem. A communication problem. In other words, a signaling problem. ... So what's the solution? >Costly signals<."

Jealousy:

Eric Barker:

"Eugene Mathes of Western Illinois University gave unmarried couples a jealousy test and then circled back seven years later. Three quarters of them had broken up, while the other quarter got married. Guess which group had the higher jealousy score? Exactly. ... a touch of jelousy can motivate couples to maintain the relationship."

Lange Bücher:

Ein paar längere Bücher durcharbeiten: Ein paar hundert Seiten lang einem Gedankenfaden folgen. Die Vertiefung in ein langes Buch lässt sich auch Denkübung oder zumindest als Training der Aufmerksamkeit verstehen.

Sexless Marriage:

Eric Barker:

>The number one Google search related to married problems? "Sexless marriage."<

Lesen:

Es gehört mithin zu den am meisten entspannendenTätigkeiten, zu lesen und zu studieren, ein paar Stunden lang. In Bücher einzutauchen, aus Büchern aufzutauchen, nach Lust und Laune, ein paar Stunden lang.

Bookish:

A. fond of books and reading

B. inclined to rely on book knowledge

Beware The Foe Who Feels No Pain

DMT Fessler et al.; Nov 2022

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Abstract

Pain is a critical internal regulator of current and future behavior. However, pain also constitutes a tactical liability in agonistic interpersonal conflict. Therefore, information about the pain sensitivity of others should play a functional role in assessments of the formidability of prospective foes or allies. Compared to an individual known to be sensitive to pain, an individual known to be insensitive to pain should be assessed as more formidable, as it would be more difficult to deter the latter from aggressing, and more difficult to motivate them to desist should conflict erupt. Further, knowing that a potential antagonist is armed should lead observers to infer relative insensitivity to pain, as the costs of erroneously presuming that an armed individual is sensitive to pain – and thus is both more vulnerable and less likely to aggress – will generally be higher than the costs of erroneously presuming that they are insensitive to pain, and thus are both less vulnerable and more inclined to aggress. Here, we find support for these predictions in three pre-registered studies conducted with U.S. online crowdsource workers (N = 473; N = 204; N = 301). The intimate association between information regarding pain sensitivity and the process of formidability assessment has implications for a variety of pressing social issues, from the use of excessive force by police, to discriminatory racial biases in the provision of medical care.