Ownership:

Satir Virginia:

"ownership of everything I’m involved in—my dreams, my hopes, my behavior, and my actions. This is the first step toward managing myself. I cannot manage anything I do not own. It might be interesting to make a list of all the many things in which you are involved, and before each subject that you list, write “my”—my dream, my hope, my mistake, my angry feeling—and see what it’s like for you to recognize your ownership of so many parts."