Social Dancing:

Aella:

"Social dancing (like blues, swing, etc) is interesting cause it's sometimes a microcosm of social dynamics at large. You have your own skill level, which u know roughly but not exactly, and you generally enjoy dances with people above your own skill level more."

"It's emphasized in the culture that you can turn down dances for any reason, but people still mostly don't do this, and if someone is very far above your skill level, you might feel bad asking them to dance cause you anticipate you're mismatched in a way that is worse for them"

"So there's some fascinating things going on where people are trying to make decisions about who to interact with based on (at least partially) skill, but their knowledge of their own level is blurry, and they have incentives to dance w higher skill but not too high"