Intensität oder Tiefe?

Was ist relevanter?

Ich würde auf Tiefe tippen, d.h. darauf, einen Gegenstand lange, bei moderater innerer Aktivierung, im Bewusstsein halten zu können.

In manchen Situationen wird allerdings der Intensität die größte Bedeutung zukommen.

Geistige Intensität:

Manche Personen haben eine außergewöhnliche Präsenz und geistige Intensität.

Woher das genau kommt? Ich weiß es nicht so recht.

Character Disorders:

Neil Clark Warren:

"You might tend to think that someone with a character disorder looks like a villain in a bad movie - unkempt, foulmouthed, poorly dressed, and abusive in all aspects of his or her behavior. Certainly, that is sometimes the case. But more often, a person with a character disorder has mastered the art of putting in a facade of social acceptability. He or she knows how to gain your confidence and that of other people. The person with a character disorder is often a smooth talker, a charmer, a person who knows how to say just the right thing to get what he or she wants. Often, they can be likable, entertaining, and the life of the party ... until you get home. These people are takers rather than givers. If you let a person with a character disorder get close to you, he or she will take everything you have to give, everything they can get, and give you little in return except heartbreak, calamity, and pain.

Just because two people stay together in a marriage does not mean they have solved a character disorder. Some people stay together in spot of their partner's despicable character. When that happens often both partners develop more serious character defects ...

Bill and Heather used one another to get what they wanted, operating warily around each other as one tiger might circle another, looking for an opportunity to gain the advantage. Although Bill and Heather have remained married, their entire relationship is permeated by distrust, suspicion, disdain, and even hatred. It is a sad caricature of what a happy marriage is meant to be. ...

I've spent my life as a psychologist. I believe people can change for the better if they genuinely want to and are willing to do the tough work to see change happen. But I must confess, my prognosis for a character disorder offers little good news. Only three experiences seem to bring any real change to someone who has a long-standing character disorder .... The truth is, even with the help of one of those three experiences, the likelihood that a character disorder can be treated successfully is extremely low. If you encounter a character disorder in your relationship, run - don't walk - away from that relationship as fast as you can. It will not get better with time; if it changes at all, it must change before you go one step farther in the relationship. ... Oh, if I just stay with this person a little while longer, he's going to make it. She's going to change. No, they won't. Not until they have to, and your involvement will probably deter any progress, and it just might destroy both your lives."


Ich glaube, der Terminus Character Disorder weist eine gewisse Nähe zu dem Terminus Persönlichkeitsstörung auf. Ein Charakteristikum von Persönlichkeitsstörungen soll sein, dass Personen mit Persönlichkeitsstörungen in Konflikt mit ihren Mitmenschen leben.

Unterschiedliche Energielevel:

Was passiert, wenn unterschiedliche Energielevel aufeinandertreffen?

Das Dating:

Personen testen aus, wie sich "zwischenmenschliche Nähe" mit unterschiedlichen Personen anfühlt.

Zwischenmenschliche "Chemie":

Z.B. eine Art Spannungsgefühl, das man in der Nähe einer bestimmten Person hat.

Oder wenn man sich zum Beispiel Stunden lang mit großer Leichtigkeit mit einer bestimmten Person unterhalten kann. Wenn das Gespräch fließt. Scheinbar ohne echten Aufwand von beiden Seiten.

Aktivierungsgrade:

Was passiert, wenn man sich mit Personen umgibt, die einen grundlegend anderen Aktivierungsgrad aufweisen?

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Menschen haben unterschiedliche Aktivierungsgrade. Und man kann, beim nahen Zusammenleben, mit anderen Aktivierungsgraden nicht immer so einfach, ohne weiteres, umgehen.

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Sport ist eine Möglichkeit, den persönlichen Aktivierungsgrad zu modulieren.