Moderate Ansprüche:

Wo ist dieser Mensch hin, der sich gerne und gerne oft zurückgelehnt hat?

Sind es moderate Ansprüche, die eben ein häufiges Zurücklehnen erlauben?

Attraktivität:

Ich mag Frauen, die hübsch und gescheit sind. Ein Zusammenkommen von diesen Eigenschaften macht mich stets schwach. (Schwach überspitzt, eigentlich werde ich bei solchen Begegnungen tendenziell klarer. Viel Irrelevantes wird im Gespräch weggefiltert. Was übrig bleibt, darf und kann bleiben.)

Joking & Seriousness:

"Joking probably gives lightness, playfulness, and relief from intensity. It helps the interaction breathe. But serious topics do something different: they reveal priorities, fears, values, judgments, memories, convictions, and the things a person is willing to become emotionally exposed around. That is why those conversations can feel like much deeper contact. You are not only exchanging words; you are learning how a person organizes his or her inner life."

Seriousness & Attractiveness:

"someone can seem objectively just as attractive while joking, but subjectively much more beautiful when speaking earnestly."

Revealing Speech:

"People often become more compelling when they stop merely being socially entertaining and start speaking from somewhere personally meaningful. Their speech becomes less ornamental and more revealing. There is a shift from “performance” to “this actually matters to me.” "

Substance:

"people who are not only pleasant, attractive, or socially smooth, but who clearly have convictions, interests, concerns, questions, or commitments that matter to them."

Projected Chastity:

Heather Remoff, Sexual Choice: