Fifteen Books:

I want to read fifteen books from cover to cover in autumn.

(So roughly one book per week and some extra books. ;-) )

Breakups:

"How soon after a breakup do people enter a new relationship? And is that the same as the time it takes to fall for someone again? Someone may feel the rush of new attraction within weeks yet hesitate for months before calling it a relationship, or the reverse, settling quickly into something new without the spark."

Zeit:

Viel häufiger als früher, dieses Gefühl, in bestimmten Situationen Zeit zu verschwenden.

Woher kann das kommen?

Skill Development:

I should try to level up my skills almost daily.

Kisses & Sex:

Claude:

"These are Fermi estimates built from partner-count surveys and assortative mating, not measured numbers.

Definitions

• Attractive: roughly the top 20% by broad outside consensus
• Highly attractive: roughly the top 5%

Per lifetime, average man	Attractive (top 20%)	Highly attractive (top 5%)
Going for a kiss (incl. rejections)	~2–5 times	~0–2 times (median ~0–1)
Different women he has sex with	~1–2 (median ~1)	~0–1 (median 0)
Share of men who ever have sex with one	~50–65%	~20–35%

How often he has sex with them

This is where the picture splits into two very different groups, because most sex happens inside long-term relationships, not one-offs.

• Men with a long-term partner from that tier. Because of assortative mating, very roughly 20–25% of men end up in a long relationship or marriage with a top-20% woman, and maybe 5–8% with a top-5% woman. For them, the count runs into the hundreds or even over a thousand times. Long-term couples average somewhere around once a week, declining with age and relationship length.
• Everyone else. These men have either zero encounters or a handful from short relationships or flings.

So the median man has sex with an attractive woman somewhere between zero and a few dozen times in his life. With a highly attractive woman, the median is zero. The mean is much higher, but only because a minority of men with long-term partners in those tiers pull it up.

Bottom line

For the typical man, a highly attractive partner is a rare or nonexistent event, while an attractive one is something he experiences with one or two women. Within the “attractive” tier, the distribution is very bimodal: either almost never, or regularly for years with one partner.

Keep in mind that most men rate their own partners as attractive, so these outside-consensus numbers say little about how men experience their own love lives."

Vom Grunde her:

Ich möchte so gerne grundlegend ein paar Sachen ändern und anders angehen.

Diesen Blog zum Beispiel:

Wie anders würde er aussehen, wenn ich hier bloß einen Beitrag je Woche einstellen würde?

Wenn das Limit auf einen Beitrag je Woche gesetzt würde, würde sich das Angesicht dieses Blogs grundlegend ändern.

Nicht, das ich eben das im Schilde führe, doch das wäre beispielsweise eine mögliche grundlegende Änderung.

Selbstreflexion:

(A) Wo man ist

(B) Wie man da hingelangt ist

(C) Wo man noch hinkommen möchte