Life:

I do not fully comprehend why life is so enjoyable.

Höhere Bezüge:

Jeder Mensch kann auf seine Weise einen Bezug zum Perfekten in und an dieser Welt aufbauen.

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Man realisiert gelegentlich auch das Perfekte: die perfekte Stunde, das perfekte Gespräch, die perfekte Begegnung, die perfekte Handlung.

The Perfect Girl:

 

Nur ein Leben:

Tiefe und Freude: Was will man mehr?

Tiefe ist essenziel: Da am nächsten Tag weiterknüpfen zu können, wo man am Vortag aufgehört hat zu knüpfen.

Freude im Sinne der Erfahrung von Freiheit und Eigenwilligkeit, denn ohne Eigenwilligkeit ist alles nichts. Wo wir unseren Willen entschieden handeln, hinter unseren Entscheidungen stehen, eigene Entscheidungen mit Entschiedenheit treffen, dort stellt sich Freude ein.

Gewissheit im Handeln / Certainty in Action:

In einer Situation, in manchen Situation, weiß man oft mit 100 prozentiger Gewissheit, was zu tun ist. Woher dieses Wissen kommt, das weiß man nicht so genau. Angesammelte Erfahrung, die einen im Sinne eines Best Guesses dieses Wissen vermittelt: "Das ist mein Tipp, tu' es!"

Diese Gewissheit im Handeln gibt dem Handeln so viel Reiz und Stoßkraft.

(Nach allem, was ich weiß und wahrnehme, ist das jetzt mein bester Zug – also führe ich eben diesen Zug aus.)

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In a situation—in certain situations—you often know with 100 percent certainty what to do. Where this knowledge comes from, you don't really know. Perhaps it is accumulated experience that gives you this knowledge in the form of a best guess: “This is my advice—do it!”

This certainty in action gives action so much appeal and momentum.

(Based on everything I know and perceive, this is my best move right now—so I make that move.)

Was ist Freiheit?

Freiheit bedeutet, tagtäglich das Leben zu leben, das man leben will, für das man sich entschieden hat und immer wieder neu entscheidet.

(Freiheit als gelebte Übereinstimmung mit den eigenen Entscheidungen.)

Bad friends?

Bad friends? Which friends are viewed as helping (or hindering) progress toward fundamental goals
Jaimie Arona Krems, Jamie Katz, Eric Y. Aglozo, Tiffany Chin, Douglas T. Kenrick (Aug 2026)


Abstract

Friendship is often touted for its benefits to physical and mental health, longevity, and happiness. But not all friendships are good, and even the best carry costs (e.g., opportunity costs). Across three studies with U.S. student and online community participants (N = 1267), we explore how people view friendship's up- and downsides. Specifically, participants rated how much four different types of friends—hypothetical ideal, actual close, ambivalent, and former friends—helped or hindered one's progress toward fundamental life goals (e.g., self-protection, mate-seeking). We find: (1) all friendships are seen as exacting costs, but (2) good (ideal and close) friendships are characterized as providing net benefits, whereas bad (ambivalent and former) friendships are characterized as comparatively costly—particularly for status- and mate-seeking; (3) even bad friends are seen as facilitating certain goals (e.g., self-protection); and (4) friendships terminated by one's friends were seen as more beneficial than friendships terminated by participants. Contrary to views that friends fail to keep accounts of costs and benefits, people seem to be tracking the perceived benefits and costs that friends facilitate.

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"Thus, to understand friendship only by its upsides is to misunderstand it. The aims of this paper are not to dispute the value of friendship, but (a) to give a more complete accounting of its psychology—one cognizant of these possible costs. Additionally, (b) we aim to redress the inattention paid to the inherent downsides of these often-overlooked relationships, as, compared to romantic and family bonds, friendships remain chronically understudied in psychology and anthropology alike (Chopik, 2017; Hruschka, 2010)—with even less attention paid to the potential costs of friendships (Kim et al., 2023; Krems et al., 2026). We consider those costs, as well as benefits, within the framework of evolved fundamental motivations (Becker et al., 2026; Kenrick et al., 2010)."