Niceness & Politeness:

Todd Kashdan:

>When someone says, "You'll like him, he's nice!" it sets an expectation of a relaxed, low-maintenance social interaction.<

>Politeness can often take on a patronizing tone, such as a teacher simplifying their vocabulary when speaking with students considered less intelligent compared to their peers.<

>Politeness is a default mode when interacting with someone whom we wish to maintain social distance.<