Attractive Men:

Alexander / @Datepsych: "If you were to take a sample of highly attractive men and look at how many people they had sex with over a short period, for example the last 5 years, it would probably be higher than the general population.
Yet, the mode would probably be just one person.

Why? Because most are getting into relationships, staying in relationships and having sex with their partner.
We overestimate the prevalence of promiscuity and we also overestimate the prevalence of sexual activity in our peers.

I would be surprised if you took a sample of men on Tinder and compared them with a sample of married men if the married men were not more attractive. Their female partners would probably also be more attractive, too.

This seems to be the case when we compare the married population with the single population; married people and people in relationships tend to be more attractive on average.
In other words, Tinder is not populated by Chads.

I have friends here online who I speak to in incel communities who are often surprised I have only had sex with one person in the last ~5 years or so.
The idea being: "but why, you could have sex with more."

But this is really just the norm for men who are romantically successful. Most will be in relationships. Most will not stay single for long periods of time. When in relationships, most will restrict their sexual behavior to that one person.

This is much more normal behavior, statistically speaking, than the promiscuous "spreading your seed" caricature of male behavior.

And when you consider that women are much less inclined to promiscuity than men, despite most romantically successful men restricting themselves to one partner, this should also make you question any narratives claiming that all women are engaging in promiscuous behavior.

Most people, women even more, just want to have a single partner. They want to meet someone, fall in love and have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Manosphere dating discourse seems to have a huge blind spot when it comes to acknowledging the extent to which men have a desire to pair bond and form relationships.
This is explained in evolutionary psychology, but for some reason the manosphere hasn't embraced this.

This is why, for example, the incel problem can't be solved by visiting sex workers. Why most incels don't even want to visit a sex worker.
And why men continue to form relationships at all, instead of just having transactional sex for cash.

We often phrase things colloquially as exclusion from the access to sex or mating.
However, it might actually be more accurate to describe the problem is exclusion from pair bonding, or exclusion from relationship formation.

The goal does not seem to be just sex, which all things considered can be purchased affordably.
Men seem to want sex in the context of a relationship, with a devoted partner, a partner who is exclusive to them, and who has genuine desire for them."