Alexander / @Datepsych:
"That’s basically the lot in life for most young men - being low in whatever given status hierarchy they move through. They aren’t bosses at work, have little money, not very good at very many skills, no degrees beyond high school, never the most interesting person in the room because they haven’t gone through many interesting live events."
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"Status realism: He’s right that most young men are, by definition, at the bottom or middle of hierarchies. A minority can be “high status,” but the average 20-something doesn’t have wealth, prestige, or much life experience yet.
The sting of comparison: Modern life makes this harsher. Social media constantly shows the few high-status outliers, so ordinary young men feel even lower by contrast.
Life stage vs. life sentence: What he describes is less a permanent condition and more the default starting point. Most men gradually accumulate money, skills, and stories over time. But in youth, it feels like you’re permanently behind.
Masculinity & worth: For men especially, identity is tied to status (career, achievements, confidence). Being low-status can feel like being invisible, or unworthy of respect, attention, or love.
His core truth: He’s saying: don’t be surprised if you’re not admired early on—most people aren’t. The challenge is whether you stagnate there or use those low-status years as fuel."
"Status realism: He’s right that most young men are, by definition, at the bottom or middle of hierarchies. A minority can be “high status,” but the average 20-something doesn’t have wealth, prestige, or much life experience yet.
The sting of comparison: Modern life makes this harsher. Social media constantly shows the few high-status outliers, so ordinary young men feel even lower by contrast.
Life stage vs. life sentence: What he describes is less a permanent condition and more the default starting point. Most men gradually accumulate money, skills, and stories over time. But in youth, it feels like you’re permanently behind.
Masculinity & worth: For men especially, identity is tied to status (career, achievements, confidence). Being low-status can feel like being invisible, or unworthy of respect, attention, or love.
His core truth: He’s saying: don’t be surprised if you’re not admired early on—most people aren’t. The challenge is whether you stagnate there or use those low-status years as fuel."
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