"As you travel to your next destination after leaving the celestial Frick Collection, attending to the interior of a rush-hour bus during flu season brings you back down to earth with a thud. In response, you take responsibility for your choice of focus, wrest your bottom-up attention from the chorus of coughs, microbial air, and recent history of the sticky pole you’re clutching, and fervently concentrate on a top-down target: the audiobook stored on the iPod you carry for just such moments. The zeal with which many of your fellow passengers focus on their newspapers, books, or MP3 players attests to a similar strategy of using attention to regulate their emotional state, albeit at the cost of tuning out a lot of wild and woolly reality."
"although controllable top-down attention isn’t “better” than the involuntary bottom-up sort, it’s the key to managing your experience."
"Stuck in a germy, jam-packed bus or subway, you have two choices. You can allow a compelling bottom-up target—the hacking, sneezing seatmate who’s spraying you with a viral mist—to hold your attention and generate stress, or you can direct your top-down attention to your paperback or music. Most of us are able to shift focus in that comfortable way most of the time. Those who can’t stop concentrating on the awful truth are said to suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder.
The irony, of course, is that psychiatric diagnosis notwithstanding, these tormented attenders are “the rational ones,” says the Penn psychologist Paul Rozin."
"You can get more accurate information about how men and women really look—their girth of middle and depth of thigh—from old masters’ paintings in a museum than from contemporary media."
"As Rozin says, “In terms of attention, there’s a gender difference both in the perception of body image and the desire to change it.” Similarly, he finds that some obese people feel that fat is just the way they are, and they focus on other things. Other heavyweights react much like people afflicted with obsessive-compulsive disorder and can’t stop concentrating on something that makes them miserable."
"Pollyanna’s insistence on “looking at the bright side,” even in tough situations, is a powerful predictor of a longer, happier, healthier life."
"Research on the so-called cognitive appraisal of emotions, pioneered by the psychologists Magda Arnold and Richard Lazarus, confirms that what happens to you, from a blizzard to a pregnancy to a job transfer, is less important to your well-being than how you respond to it."
"If you want to get over a bad feeling, she says, “focusing on something positive seems to be the quickest way to usher out the unwanted emotion.” "
"First, says Fredrickson, you examine “the seed of emotion,” or how you honestly feel about what occurred. Then you direct your attention to some element of the situation that frames things in a more helpful light. After a big blowup over an equitable sharing of the housework, rather than continuing to concentrate on your partner’s selfishness and sloth, you might focus on the fact that at least a festering conflict has been aired, which is the first step toward a solution to the problem, and to your improved mood."
"Interestingly, people who are depressed and anhedonic—unable to feel pleasure—have particular trouble using this venerable attentional self-help tactic. This difficulty suggests to Fredrickson that they suffer from a dearth of happiness rather than a surfeit of sadness: “It’s as if the person’s positive emotional systems have been zapped or disabled.” "
"It’s a hard thing to accept, but as Fredrickson says, “Very few circumstances are one hundred percent bad.” Even in very difficult situations, she finds, it’s often possible to find something to be grateful for, such as others’ loving support, good medical care, or even your own values, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on such a benign emotion isn’t just a “nice thing to do,” but a proven way to expand your view of reality and lift your spirits, thus improving your ability to cope."
"IN OUR YOUTH-CRAZED media and popular culture, one situation that’s generally regarded as very unfortunate indeed is old age. The assumption is that, considering the wrinkles, aches and pains, and unchic footwear, old people must be unhappy with life, but new research shows that by and large, barring some crisis, they’re not. Despite certain obvious declines, elders’ emotional well-being is as good as, if not better than, that of younger people. One major reason for their surprisingly upbeat attitude is their increased skill in focusing on things that foster feelings of contentment.
Chances are that your grandmother didn’t need a psychologist to tell her to try to see the proverbial glass as half-full. When you were acting droopy, she listened to your tale of woe—your teacher gave you a D in math or your father docked your allowance—then reframed your reality by pointing out that you were lucky to be taught by someone who wanted you to realize your true potential or to have a parent who cared about your character development. Think of all the poor children who have neither!
Research shows that it’s no accident that many grandparents are experts in making such empowering attentional adjustments. Indeed, seeing that glass as at least half-full may be aging’s greatest underremarked benefit. Compared with the young, the old experience fewer unpleasant emotions and just as many delightful ones. They’re also more satisfied with their relationships and better at solving problems that crop up in them. Elders who have a particularly positive focus tend to be healthier as well as happier: according to the Ohio Longitudinal Study, they live 7.5 years longer.
To William James, wisdom was “the art of knowing what to overlook,” and many elders master this way of focusing. Lots of studies show that younger adults pay as much or more attention to negative information as to the positive sort. By middle age, however, their focus starts to shift, until in old age, they’re likely to have a strong positive bias in what they both attend to and remember."
"Age does not entail the relentless pursuit of happiness, but rather the satisfaction of emotionally meaningful goals ... "
"As elders’ more benign outlook suggests, older brains attend to and remember emotional stimuli differently from younger ones."
"FACED WITH A DIFFICULT situation, your grandmother and hers knew that sometimes the best strategy is to “grin and bear it,” or to “look for the silver lining.” However, the appreciation of such attentional-attitudinal coping tactics is a recent development in Western psychology. Since Freud, most forms of therapy have maintained that the best way to deal with a problem or trauma is to concentrate on it. Through this “processing,” the theory goes, you’ll eventually gain insight and feel wiser, and hopefully better. Accordingly, most people who’ve taken Psych 101 think they’re more or less obliged to chew over a breakup or career reversal, alone or with a friend or therapist, or maybe all of the above.
"WHATEVER YOUR TEMPERAMENT, living the focused life is not about trying to feel happy all the time, which would be both futile and grotesque. Rather, it’s about treating your mind as you would a private garden and being as careful as possible about what you introduce and allow to grow there. Your ability to function comfortably in a dirty, germy world is just one illustration of your powerful capacity to put mind over matter and control your experience by shifting your focus from counterproductive to adaptive thoughts and feelings. In this regard, one reason why certain cultures venerate the aged for their wisdom is that elders tend to maximize opportunities to attend to the meaningful and serene, and to the possibility that, as E. M. Forster put it in A Room With a View, “. . . by the side of the everlasting Why there is a Yes—a transitory Yes if you like, but a Yes.” "
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"Chapter 3 of Rapt explores how deliberate, top-down attention can be harnessed to regulate emotions and craft a more positive, resilient inner life—emphasizing that while bottom-up emotional cues (especially negative ones) naturally capture focus, voluntary redirection to constructive targets is a powerful, underutilized skill for well-being. This chapter shifts from the mechanics of attention (Chapters 1-2) to its practical application in emotional management, blending psychological research with anecdotal examples to argue that "choice of attention... is to the inner life what choice of action is to the outer," making us responsible for our emotional experiences. In depth, it's not a simplistic "think positive" mantra; Gallagher acknowledges evolution's negativity bias and the utility of unpleasant emotions for problem-solving, but stresses their high cost when unchecked, advocating attentional shifts as an essential strategy for transcendence over reactivity. The quotes you provided vividly illustrate this, showing attention as a tool for reframing reality—from bus distractions to aging's silver linings—without external anecdotes beyond the text. All in all, this chapter is essential for the book's arc, positioning emotional regulation as a gateway to the "focused life," but with candid honesty about the effort required and cultural biases (e.g., Freudian "processing" vs. strategic avoidance).
1. Selective Attention as Emotional Regulator: Agency in Inner Life
Gallagher opens by highlighting attention's "selective nature" as a tool for "customizing your experience," quoting W. H. Auden to equate it with outer actions: We're "responsible for [our] choice and must accept the consequences." This is essential because, while bottom-up attention grabs "compelling" negatives (e.g., germs on a bus triggering stress), top-down shifts to positives (e.g., an audiobook) regulate mood— "although controllable top-down attention isn’t ‘better’ than the involuntary bottom-up sort, it’s the key to managing your experience." The quotes emphasize practicality: In flu-season transit, focusing on distractions leads to misery, but redirecting to a "fervent" target like music attests to a "strategy of using attention to regulate [your] emotional state," even at the cost of "tuning out... reality."
Synthesized from the quotes, this theme underscores attention's power to reframe: "Pollyanna’s insistence on ‘looking at the bright side’" predicts a "longer, happier, healthier life," as "cognitive appraisal of emotions" (per Arnold/Lazarus) shows response matters more than events. Gallagher's thoughts here are pragmatic—e.g., examining the "seed of emotion" then shifting to a "helpful light" (like airing a housework conflict as progress)—but it's not foolproof; depressed individuals struggle with this due to "zapped" positive systems.
2. Negativity Bias and the Cost of Unmanaged Emotions
A core warning is our "wired" tendency to "focus on the negative ideas and emotions that signal threats," with "psychology’s ‘negativity bias theory’" making unpleasant feelings "more powerful" than positives. Negative emotions "attune you to potential threat" for problem-solving (e.g., fear prompts food storage in bear country, desolation affirms social ties), but when unproductive, they "exact a high cost," like ruminating on "problematic relationships" or birthday heart attacks spiking 20% from aging fears. Gallagher critiques Freudian "processing" as potentially harmful—e.g., post-trauma debriefing aggravates symptoms, and "self-deception and emotional avoidance" link to "better outcome" in some cases, challenging cultural norms.
3. Positive Emotions as Expanders: Aging, Reframing, and Wisdom
The chapter's highlight is aging: Elders' "positive bias" leads to better well-being, health (7.5 years longer life), and problem-solving, as "age does not entail the relentless pursuit of happiness, but rather the satisfaction of emotionally meaningful goals." Quotes show "older brains attend to and remember emotional stimuli differently," maximizing "meaningful and serene" focus like James' "wisdom [as] the art of knowing what to overlook." Elders as "experts" in attentional shifts.
Overall Chapter Essence and Takeaways
Chapter 3 positions attention as an emotional regulator—essential for shifting from negativity's contraction to positivity's expansion, with agency in "treating your mind as... a private garden." Useful takeaways: Examine emotions then reframe positively (e.g., "focusing on something positive" ushers out negatives); embrace aging's wisdom for serene focus."
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