Going Out:

Quintus Curtius:

"People actually went out and socialized in the 80s and 90s. Hard to believe for the current generation of weed warriors, gamesters, stunted development warriors, celibate autists, spazzes, teetotalers, and pudwacks."

Equity:

EdReal:

~ "Equity" [means] lowering expectations.

Sacred:

Edward Faser:

"The very idea that some things are sacred – that is to say, set apart and not open to just anyone or to any use ..."

Almost the same words could be used for "selective".

-> The very idea that some things are selective - that is to say, set apart and not open to just anyone or to any use ...

E.g. from a societal viewpoint, a pressure can be put on females (or males) to choose their partners well, to be selective. Universities can be forced to choose their students well. etc. etc.

In essence, style is selectiveness.

The North Wind:

via farnam street:

“There is a Scandinavian saying which some of us might well take as a rallying cry for our lives: The north wind made the Vikings! Wherever did we get the idea that secure and pleasant living, the absence of difficulty, and the comfort of ease, ever of themselves made people either good or happy? Upon the contrary, people who pity themselves go on pitying themselves even when they are laid softly on a cushion, but always in history character and happiness have come to people in all sorts of circumstances, good, bad, and indifferent, when they shouldered their personal responsibility. So, repeatedly the north wind has made the Vikings.”

Natalism:

Bryan Caplan:

"there is no intrinsic link between non-conformism and natalism. In a natalist society, conformism boosts fertility. But in our anti-natalist society, we need non-conformist steel to breed. This is especially easy for young women, because men’s preferences for family size are quite flexible. If a guy likes everything else about you, “I want three kids” will rarely be a deal-breaker."

Meditation:

Robin Hanson:

"I’ll say it: meditation is boring. Sure sometimes boring can relax, rest, comfort, or center you."

Relational Boredom:

Are You Tired of “Us?”:

"Romantic couples face several challenges when attempting to maintain satisfying, long-term relationships. One subtle but pervasive challenge couples are likely to encounter is relational boredom, the tendency for partners to feel “tired of” and unstimulated in their relationship (Harasymchuk & Fehr, 2010, 2013). Past work suggests that when people experience boredom in their relationship they report a wide variety of negative emotions (e.g., lack of excitement, frustration) which can lead to declines in relationship quality (e.g. Reissman et al., 1993). In fact, one clinician concluded that “boredom is perhaps the most common denominator of all marital problems” (Venditti, 1980, p. 65). ..."

"Boredom is a common experience. It is, interestingly, both a low- and higharousal state wherein people can feel simultaneously understimulated and restless (e.g., Danckert et al., 2018; Westgate, 2020)."

"boredom is frequently cited as a major reason for relationship discord and dissolution (Aron & Aron, 1986; Reissman et al., 1993)."