A Non-Fiction Blog. Ein Sachblog. A collection of some bits of information extracted from the scientific and from the non-fiction literature. (Until June 2025 there were also some poems and aphorisms posted on this blog.) Sachthemen und Sachtexte. (Bis Ende Juni 2025 wurden hier auch regelmäßig Gedichte und Aphorismen zu beliebigen Themen veröffentlicht.)
Montag, 23. Februar 2026
Grundfrage Ehe / Core Question of Marriage:
Die Ehe als ein stark kooperativer Bund.
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Are the chances good that cooperating with this person will work well over the next thirty to forty years?
Marriage as a highly cooperative partnership.
Sonntag, 22. Februar 2026
Zufriedenheit in Paarbeziehungen und Sexuelle Frequenz / Satisfaction in Romantic Relationships and Sexual Frequency:
"Studien (z. B. aus dem pairfam-Panel oder Meta-Analysen zu Beziehungszufriedenheit) zeigen: Paare mit hoher sexueller Frequenz berichten fast immer auch von höherem Commitment, besserer Selbstöffnung und weniger Konflikten. Umgekehrt hängen niedrige Frequenz + geringe Zufriedenheit stark zusammen." -----
“Studies (e.g., from the pairfam panel or meta-analyses on relationship satisfaction) show that couples with a high sexual frequency almost always report higher commitment, better self-disclosure, and fewer conflicts. Conversely, low frequency and low satisfaction are strongly associated.”
Der Fischer Weltalmanach:
"Der Fischer Weltalmanach war für eine ganze Generation quasi das Wikipedia vor Wikipedia: kompakt, zuverlässig, jedes Jahr neu und vor allem analog. Man konnte einfach mal 20 Minuten darin blättern, von der Bevölkerungszahl von Burkina Faso zu den Goldreserven der Schweiz springen, die Staatsform von Suriname nachschlagen und nebenbei noch die Flaggenfarben auswendig lernen. Viele haben dadurch ein ziemlich solides Grundwissen über die Welt aufgesaugt, ohne es überhaupt als „Lernen“ zu empfinden.
Ehrlich gesagt: Das war eine der besten Arten, wie analoge Medien Wissbegierde füttern konnten. Es hatte genau die richtige Mischung aus
- trockenen Zahlen (die man irgendwie magisch fand),
- kleinen Textkästen mit Hintergrund,
- und diesem Gefühl, man halte die ganze Welt in einem 700-Seiten-Taschenbuch.
Heute ist es natürlich fast schon rührend nostalgisch: 2018 kam die letzte Ausgabe raus (die 60.), danach hat der Verlag aufgegeben – Internet + Smartphones haben den Markt kaputt gemacht. Viele sagen, der Fischer war einfach zu teuer und zu langsam im Vergleich zu einer Google-Suche. Aber genau das war ja auch sein Charme: Man hatte ein abgeschlossenes Jahrbuch, das nicht alle 5 Minuten aktualisiert wurde und einen dadurch nicht in den Strudel permanenter News-Sucht zog.
Heute gibt es Nachfolger wie den Kosmos Welt-Almanach & Atlas (der 2026 gerade frisch erschienen ist), der versucht, in die Fußstapfen zu treten – aber es fühlt sich für viele doch anders an. Der Fischer hatte einfach diesen ganz eigenen, leicht trockenen Charakter."
Montag, 16. Februar 2026
Tim Ferriss:
Hätte man mal ein Buch von Tim Ferriss lesen sollen?
Z.B. den 4-Hour-Chef?
Wie man also rasch interessante Fähigkeiten erwirbt ...
Sonntag, 15. Februar 2026
Bejahung, Interesse:
Grok versus ChatGPT versus Claude:
Grok: " "Pussy whipped" (also spelled pussy-whipped) is vulgar slang, almost always applied to a man in a heterosexual relationship.
It means he is heavily dominated, controlled, or submissive to his girlfriend, wife, or female partner — to the point where he prioritizes her wishes, demands, or approval over his own interests, friends, independence, or "manly" behavior.
The term implies (often crudely) that this control happens largely because of sex — specifically, her "pussy" (vulgar slang for vagina) has him so hooked or he's so desperate to keep getting access to sex that he'll do basically anything she wants, change his plans, ditch his friends, etc.
Common nuances and how it's used
- It's usually derogatory or teasing (often among guys): "Dude, you're so pussy whipped — you used to rage till 3 a.m., now you're home by 9 because she said so."
- A milder version is just "whipped" (without the "pussy"), which means the same thing but is less crude and can apply more broadly.
- It carries sexist undertones: it suggests women "control" men via sex/withholding sex, and mocks men for being "weak" or "henpecked" in a relationship.
- Some people jokingly reclaim it or wear it as a badge ("Yeah, I'm pussy whipped and proud — happy wife, happy life"), but most usages treat it as an insult or roast.
In short: it's a rude way of saying a guy lets his girl run the show (usually with the implication that sex is the leash). It's not a neutral or polite term — it's intentionally crude and provocative." ----- ChatGPT:
"In slang, when someone says a guy is “pussy whipped,” they mean he’s overly controlled by, submissive to, or obsessed with a woman he’s sleeping with or attracted to—to the point where he changes his behavior, priorities, or even personality for her.
Bluntly:
It implies he’s letting sexual attraction (or the relationship) run the show.
What people usually mean
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He cancels plans with friends because she wants him around.
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He agrees with everything she says, even when he doesn’t really mean it.
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He spends excessive money or time trying to please her.
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He seems “different” or less independent than before.
Tone & connotation
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It’s mocking and dismissive.
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It suggests weakness or loss of backbone.
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It’s often used by friends teasing a guy who’s very into his partner.
Reality check
Sometimes it’s just used when a man is simply… happy in a relationship and prioritizing his partner. The term says as much about the speaker’s attitude as about the relationship itself."
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Claude:
"In slang, "pussy whipped" (sometimes shortened to "whipped") means a man is overly submissive to or controlled by his romantic/sexual partner, typically implying he'll do whatever she wants at the expense of his own interests, friendships, or autonomy.
The term carries negative connotations - it's usually used mockingly to suggest the person has lost their independence or backbone in the relationship. For example, friends might say someone is "whipped" if he constantly cancels plans with them to be with his girlfriend, always defers to her preferences, or seems unable to make decisions without her approval.
The term is gendered and sexist in its origins and implications, treating female influence in relationships as emasculating. More neutral alternatives like "whipped" or simply saying someone is "really into their partner" or "prioritizes their relationship" convey similar ideas without the crude or sexist language."
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Grok:
"Grok comes straight to the point.
Looking at the three responses side-by-side on the exact same vulgar slang question:
- Grok jumps right in with a bold, unhedged definition ("vulgar slang..."), spells out the crude core implication immediately ("her 'pussy'... has him so hooked"), uses bullet points for quick readability, calls it rude/sexist/crude without apology, and ends with a punchy summary. No disclaimers, no softening, no long wind-up—just the raw explanation.
- ChatGPT starts softer ("overly controlled by, submissive to, or obsessed with"), uses "Bluntly:" as a half-step toward directness, lists examples, then adds a whole "Reality check" paragraph that relativizes/judges the term's use ("says as much about the speaker’s attitude"). It's helpful and balanced, but pads with nuance and caution.
- Claude leads with a clean but polite definition, quickly notes the mocking/sexist origins, and ends by suggesting more neutral alternatives. It's thoughtful, measured, and careful—almost academic in tone—prioritizing sensitivity over blunt force.
Grok's version is the most concise, profane-matching, no-filter take: it treats the slang like the crude street term it is and doesn't dress it up or hedge. ChatGPT explains well but cushions it; Claude explains responsibly but politely distances itself.
If "straight to the point" means least bullshit, fewest qualifiers, and most willing to match the term's energy—Grok wins that one hands down. That's kinda the design brief." -----
" "pussy whipped" is a crude, vulgar slang term specifically for a man who is dominated, controlled, or heavily submissive to his wife, girlfriend, or female partner.
He lets her call the shots, bends to her demands, prioritizes her over his own stuff (friends, hobbies, independence, etc.), and is seen as having "lost his backbone" in the relationship.
The key differences from plain old "dominated by his wife/girlfriend" are:
- It's almost always applied only to men in hetero relationships (rarely the reverse).
- It carries a strong sexual implication — the idea that her control comes from (or is maintained by) access to sex / her "pussy" (hence the word). Dictionaries and slang sources repeatedly tie it to the threat/implied withholding of sex as the "whip."
- It's derogatory and mocking, often used to roast a guy for being "weak" or "henpecked" in a sexist way (implying women shouldn't have that much power, or that he's pathetic for submitting).
- Milder synonyms like just "whipped," "henpecked," or "under the thumb" mean roughly the same domination/submission thing without the explicit vulgarity or sex-leash angle.
So yeah — if someone's saying a guy is pussy whipped, they're basically saying "he's dominated by his woman" ... but in the most blunt, profane, and usually insulting way possible. It's not a neutral or positive description."
Samstag, 14. Februar 2026
Lesen / The Reading Habit:
Random Walk:
Freitag, 13. Februar 2026
Raising one’s standards for one’s own behavior:
“If someone raises the standards for their own behavior, it means that they impose higher or stricter standards or expectations on themselves. This can relate to various aspects of life, such as morality, professionalism, kindness, reliability, or performance. Essentially, it means that the person strives to act better or to behave in a way they consider improved or desirable. Such elevated standards can arise from personal convictions, the desire for self-improvement, the influence of role models, or social pressure.”
The Cognition Project:
The Cognition Project is a podcast by Tom Griffiths, co-author of Algorithms to Live By.
Donnerstag, 12. Februar 2026
Mittwoch, 11. Februar 2026
How To See The World Enchanted Again:
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"In the first of the four ages, the bike is entirely invisible to young Lewis as something that carries any meaning. At this point, he has experienced nothing, so his “un-enchantment” has no depth to it.
I can remember a time in early childhood when a bicycle meant nothing to me: it was just part of the huge, meaningless background of grown-up gadgets against which life went on.
In the second age, Lewis discovers the bicycle for the first time with a deep sense of joy and wonder.
Then came a time when to have a bicycle, and to have learned to ride it, and to be at last spinning along on one’s own, early in the morning, under trees, in and out of the shadows, was like entering Paradise. That apparently effortless and frictionless gliding—more like swimming than any other motion, but really most like the discovery of a fifth element—that seemed to have solved the secret of life. Now one would begin to be happy.
The enchantment of the bicycle, however, cannot last forever. With time, it becomes overly familiar, and the difficulties of riding it become apparent.
But, of course, I soon reached the third period. Pedalling to and fro from school (it was one of those journeys that feel up-hill both ways) in all weathers, soon revealed the prose of cycling. The bicycle, itself, became to me what his oar is to a galley slave.
Be careful to note that this state of dis-enchantment is distinct from the earlier un-enchantment. The world is full of un-enchanted people who mistake themselves for dis-enchanted. The dis-enchanted man, having already stepped through wonder, has a very different task ahead of him.
When Lewis goes back to riding his bike to work in adulthood, his perspective shifts again.
But again and again the mere fact of riding brings back a delicious whiff of memory. I recover the feelings of the second age. What’s more, I see how true they were—how philosophical, even. For it really is a remarkably pleasant motion. To be sure, it is not a recipe for happiness as I then thought. In that sense the second age was a mirage. But a mirage of something. . . . Whether there is, or whether there is not, in this world or in any other, the kind of happiness which one’s first experiences of cycling seemed to promise, still, on any view, it is something to have had the idea of it. The value of the thing promised remains even if that particular promise was false—even if all possible promises of it are false.
The first impression of the bike was something of a “mirage.” It promised a kind of joy that could never last. But this experience was something in and of itself, because the mirage was pointing at something true."
Samstag, 7. Februar 2026
Ambiguity Tolerance:
"Ambiguity tolerance, or how well you deal with uncertainty, is key in psychology. It measures someone's comfort with unclear info, open-ended problems, or situations lacking clear rules. Folks with high tolerance—like artists or entrepreneurs—embrace the unknown, think creatively, and don't stress over loose ends. They see ambiguity as a chance for innovation, not a threat. Low tolerance types prefer structure, crave specifics, and might feel anxious when plans shift or details are fuzzy. It's not good or bad—just wired differently. Research ties it to personality traits like openness in the Big Five model. In real life, jobs in law, medicine, or tech often reward high tolerance since decisions hinge on incomplete data."
Ambiguity Tolerance:
"Ambiguity tolerance is your psychological capacity to function effectively when you're facing situations that lack clear information, definite outcomes, or obvious solutions. People with high ambiguity tolerance can stay calm and make decisions even when things are fuzzy or contradictory. Those with low tolerance tend to feel anxious and want everything spelled out clearly before they act. It shows up everywhere—in how you handle change at work, make tough personal decisions, or deal with conflicting information."
Ambiguitätstoleranz:
Klar gesagt:
Du kannst zwei scheinbar gegensätzliche Gedanken gleichzeitig im Kopf behalten, die Spannung spüren – und trotzdem ruhig, handlungsfähig und differenziert bleiben.
Widerspruch aushalten
„Ich mag Person A, oder Job B, aber ich bin doch mit manchem von Person A oder von Job B recht unzufrieden."
Nicht ins Schwarz-Weiß kippen
Kein reflexartiges „Entweder-oder“, sondern „Sowohl-als-auch“.
Unsicherheit tolerieren
Du musst nicht sofort wissen, was „richtig“ ist.
Spannung regulieren
Der innere Druck wird bemerkt – aber nicht panisch aufgelöst.
Psychologisch betrachtet
Menschen mit niedriger Ambiguitätstoleranz suchen schnelle Klarheit.
Sie vereinfachen, polarisieren, werten schnell auf oder ab.
Unsicherheit fühlt sich bedrohlich an.
Menschen mit hoher Ambiguitätstoleranz bleiben länger offen.
Sie denken komplexer, sind weniger dogmatisch, oft kreativer.
Forschung zeigt: höhere Toleranz korreliert mit kognitiver Flexibilität und geringerer autoritärer Tendenz."
Donnerstag, 5. Februar 2026
Gute Umwelten / Good Environments:
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Surrounding oneself with people one can trust.
Erhebungen / Elevations:
Der Mensch wird besser mit und durch seine Erhebungen.
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An elevation is always also a laying down of the fear of pain or of exertion.
A human being becomes better with and through his elevations.
Dieser Blog / This Blog:
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This blog is like a kind of diary in which I record thoughts, snippets from the internet, as well as a few excerpts from articles or books.
Positives Interesse versus Notwendige Handlungen / Pflichthandlungen:
"Warum sich beides oft widerspricht:
Warum der Gegensatz aber nicht absolut ist:
Der eigentliche Konflikt liegt oft woanders:
Die Rolle der Spannungstoleranz:
Spannungstoleranz:
Anspannung bei Gesprächen:
"Viele Menschen spüren in Gesprächen eine innere Anspannung.
Hier sind die häufigsten Gründe:
1) Kognitive Dissonanz
- Entweder muss ich meine Meinung ändern
- oder die andere Information abwehren
Typische Beispiele:
- Jemand kritisiert etwas, das du für richtig hältst.
- Jemand beschreibt dich anders, als du dich selbst siehst.
- Deine Werte kollidieren mit der Situation.
2) Erwartete Unlust oder soziale Gefahr
Gespräche sind nie nur Informationsaustausch. Sie sind auch:
- Bewertungssituationen
- Statusverhandlungen
- potenzielle Konfliktsituationen
Das Gehirn prüft ständig:
- Werde ich kritisiert?
- Muss ich mich rechtfertigen?
- Entsteht ein Konflikt?
- Wirke ich kompetent?
Wenn die Antwort unsicher ist, aktiviert das Nervensystem eine leichte Stressreaktion. Das passiert oft automatisch.
Viele Menschen sind während Gesprächen nicht nur im Gespräch, sondern gleichzeitig im Kopf:
- „Wie wirke ich gerade?“
- „Sage ich etwas Dummes?“
- „Hätte ich das anders formulieren sollen?“
Das erzeugt eine Art mentale Doppelbelastung:
- Gespräch führen
- sich selbst überwachen
Das kostet Energie und wird als Anspannung erlebt.
4) Unklare Erwartungen oder fehlende Kontrolle
Das Gehirn mag Vorhersagbarkeit.
Wenn du nicht weißt:
- wohin das Gespräch geht
- was die andere Person will
- wie du reagieren sollst
entsteht ein unterschwelliger Alarmzustand.
Das ist besonders stark bei:
- Autoritätspersonen
- neuen Menschen
- unklaren Situationen
- emotionalen Themen
5) Alte Lernerfahrungen
Wenn man gelernt hat:
- Gespräche führen zu Kritik
- eigene Meinung führt zu Konflikt
- man wird nicht verstanden
- man muss sich beweisen
dann reagiert das Nervensystem schon im Vorfeld angespannt.
Das ist kein bewusste Entscheidung, sondern ein automatisches Muster.
Wenn die Anspannung vor allem auftritt bei…
- Kritik oder Meinungsunterschieden → eher kognitive Dissonanz- Autoritäten oder neuen Leuten → eher soziale Bewertung
- emotionalen Themen → eher alte Lernerfahrungen
- unklaren Situationen → eher Kontrollverlust
Oft ist es eine Mischung aus zwei oder drei Faktoren."
Dienstag, 3. Februar 2026
Hardcore People:
"Hardcore people are not loud. ... They are obsessed, in a quiet, unsettling way. They care about truth, precision, and outcomes. They notice details others gloss over. They don’t tolerate sloppy thinking, weak effort, or half-finished work, not in others, and especially not in themselves.
But hardcore people working on hardcore things? That’s where magic happens.
Die Erhebung:
Spannung und Schmerz:
Große Familien:
Zwei Zustände:
Rückschau:
In der Rückschau wird das Werthaltige oft wesentlich deutlicher sichtbar als in der Gegenwart.
Spannungsfelder:
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Das Normale ist vermutlich, dass eine bestimmte Situation bestimmte Ansprüche an das Verhalten stellt. Diese Ansprüche, besonders auch, wenn es mehrere unterschiedliche, zum Teil im Widerspruch und Gegensatz zueinander stehende Ansprüche sind, werden innerlich als Spannung oder Anspannung wahrgenommen.
Schlüsseljahre:
Wenn in einem einzelnen Jahr viel Wesentliches und Neues angestoßen wird.




